Ever have a day (or multiple days) where you just shut down mentally?
For the first time in a long while, I personally shut down after an abysmal morning that I look to not repeat again. Making a mistake at 29 is not as easy to overcome as it is at 22. As you mature, you realize the consequences of a mistake and even the shame of even committing it. It was that feeling that knocked me out. I know I shouldn’t feel ashamed about mistakes, but life can be full of preventative measures that I guess humans fail to do. I was so nervous to even tell my folks what happened, but they gave me some sound advice which I look to utilize moving forward!
Personally, I am not good at introspective and that’s helped me coast, by not looking inside. Yet, to experience failure is worthwhile! Experiencing failure can you help you grow, if we just take time to understand the substance and the reasoning why failure happened in the first place! It’s just a matter of hitting back at the failure, as Rocky Balboa notes. Do you ever fail, and have an easy blinding to the failure, instead of fully evaluating it? It’s 2021, let’s evaluate the mistakes and learn from them!
I think I’m hyping myself up here to do this, but I find it’s a worthwhile blog to encourage the adapting to failure. Not to keep failing, of course. I learned today it’s OK to talk about our failure, because you can get the advice you need from the ones who love you. I am always active and out and about, yet today I couldn’t even get out of bed until noon. I was full of embarrassment and failure. I do believe being willing to talk will get you out of bed and back on your feet. Or in my case, back on my foot!
By thinking of it I do believe you can adapt to the failure. One idea is to just write. Write out what the issue at hand was. Write out how you could have handled it much better, put the solutions IN NOW, to make failure a dead-end as much as possible. Note what worked from the last time and how you ‘adapted to failure’. Put your adaptations into practice and of course always tweak these lists as needed! Yes, adapt the adaptations already made!
Another way to adapt to failure, is to apologize PROFUSELY to those who have been affected. Not only do you come off fairly reputable still, you can put your own mind at ease. By admitting the mistake, apologizing for it, you can seriously move on to bigger and better days. Why put pride in front of the chance to adapt and prevent chaos the very next time?
Being human leads to human error. We can take that humanness, adapt to where you have flawed, and turn it into greatness!